Self-Confidence. We all need it. We all should have it.
No matter who you are, where you come from, what you do, etc. Whatever the case may be, self-confidence is what grounds you. It solidifies who you are. Allows you to do things you never thought you would be capable of. Without it, you eventually deteriorate.
Imagine taking a risk you never thought you could. Asking your boss for a promotion, making the first move in your relationship, speaking up for yourself, speaking in front of a crowd, taking the lead on an adventure, etc. With confidence, you learn to build the courage to do things you wouldn't normally do.
Below, I’ve listed 5 steps to become the best version of yourself while building your confidence.
These I wish I knew and applied when I was younger. While you read this, always remember
You.Are.Beautiful.
1. Accept Who You Are
It all starts with accepting who you are as an individual. Appreciating that you are enough. You are complete. By accepting that you’re all you need, will then allow you to open up and acknowledge much more about yourself.
Understand, no one can be a better you, than yourself. You are the only person who can be you to the fullest. Embrace that. No one else has your qualities, your charm, your personality. That all belongs to you. Never change it for anyone. Why should you when there are people out there who most likely look up to you and want to be like you? It could be the closest person to you, or someone you’ve never met. But I guarantee you there’s someone out there who admires you for the true you. There’s no point in trying to be someone else because even they have their own flaws that they’re trying to overcome.
Once you can accept that you truly are unique and special, your confidence will start to shine. Confidence always has a way of lighting up a room. It’s like an energy that touches every soul. You know that feeling when you’re sitting in a room and that one person walks in, making you feel intimidated almost. Not necessarily in a bad way, but it makes you feel like “I wish I could be like that”. Be that person. Be so confident that others can feel your energy radiating through them.
2. Take Inspiration From Others
Taking inspiration and adopting an attribute from people you look up to and admire is a great way to enhance your existing beautiful qualities. As humans, were always evolving. Physically, mentally and spiritually. During one stage in your life, you’re obsessed with colour, vibrance, energy. Later down the track, you’re as neutral as Kim K’s house. Whatever the scenario, if you look back at who you were and who you’ve become, you’ll notice a difference.
You may admire a quality you see in someone. Whether it was their charisma, elegance, or even accent. You think to yourself, “I wish I was more like that”. But the real question is, why can’t you be more like that? I’m not saying change who you are and be someone else. That is a big NO. I’m saying, you were so drawn to this person because of a simple quality that potentially, you can make your own. And ultimately, that quality would be one you’re already carrying. You just didn’t know it was there.
The idea is to adopt a quality you’re drawn to. Enhance who you are as a person instead of trying to be someone or something you’re not. I can guarantee you it won’t work. It isn’t genuine. Be true to yourself. Love yourself. Who better to be you than you?
By working on yourself to be the best version you can possibly be will in turn have a significant impact on your self-esteem, therefore higher confidence. Work on yourself. Keep working until your heart is content. And even then, work even more. Don’t stop for anyone. You come first. ALWAYS.
3. Don’t Stop Learning
Don’t be afraid to learn new things. With knowledge comes power. Whether it is a new language, understanding art, redefining your style or even something you’re not very good at. Whatever the case may be, don’t hold yourself back from your willingness to learn. A compelling quality that conveys a confident person stems from their knowledge. Talking to them is like listening to your favourite song. You just don’t want it to end.
The most obvious reason of containing information others may not. It builds your confidence. When you are able to openly have a discussion with someone based purely on information you know, portrays a more confident person. You feel more confident because you have the capability to share your opinion. You’re not sitting there like “what the hell are they talking about”. You create a representation of yourself. An aura. People don’t forget that.
Learning leads to doing. You could learn a new skill that potentially gets you a job you never dreamt of having. You become your own boss because of the information you’ve acquired. You then have the ability to share that information with many more. It becomes your full-time job, getting paid while sitting at home earning bank. To have the ability to do that, requires the confidence that opened the doors for you in the first place.
4. Glam Yourself
You knew I was throwing that in there. This blog is essentially about all things glamorous. We’ve discussed how to be confident on the inside, but if you don’t look the part, you won’t feel the part. This is my favourite section. The scene in movies when the makeover happens. The time in your life when you shock everyone around you, including yourself.
Meaning glam yourself up a little. Take pride in your appearance. They say “when you look good, you feel good”. You’ll be surprised at how effective this approach is.
Take some time during the week to exercise. Invest more energy in your skincare routine. Put some makeup on. Buy a new outfit that you know will make you look and feel fabulous. Whatever it is you need to do. Do it for yourself. It’s about making you happy before making anyone else happy. And once you start to feel happy, your confidence starts to shine.
5. Apply What You Just Read
Application. Applying everything you just read into a form of action. You have the theory. Now complete the practical. It’s never enough to just ‘know’ about something if you can’t put it to good use. Use the information given to you to better yourself. To better who you are. To feel your absolute best.
You’ve now understood that accepting yourself as a person tops the list. After the stage of acceptance, you start working on your character. One place to start is inspiration. You can be inspired from anything or anyone around you. Once you have an idea of who you want to be, gain the material. Learn new things. Learn about yourself, your emotions, your strengths, your weaknesses. Embrace them, perfect them and build on them. You’ve now started to transform your confidence on the inside. You’re radiating. Not only have you become confident, you dress the part too.
Overall, having self-confidence benefits you and only you. Without it, you're restricting yourself from opportunities that may never around again. Don't just apply these steps once and move on with your life. Write them down. Remember them. Apply them everywhere and anywhere. It takes time, but eventually you won't need to remember. It'll become who you are. Your reading this is taking the first step. Don't stop when you've already started. You got this.
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